Sunday night brought about a very nice event. Steven's 2 brothers (and 1 of their wives) came over to our house and we were able to send some time together. It was both happy and sad. We were happy to be together, everyone gets so busy that it gets hard. But it was sad because we were going through what was left of Steven's parents' things. A bunch of pictures, photo albums, family portraits, old papers, etc, that have been lining my walls. We didn't want to do anything with it until everyone had a say in whether or not they wanted to keep it. We were able to see some pictures we had never seen before and look upon some that we had forgotten about. It was a nice time. Even Sparky calmed down and hung out with us. Afterwards, we went to dinner together. No kids! (JJ wasn't happy about that. I made them a nice dinner, but he still wanted to come. Nope. Adults only!)
At dinner, we learned that the estate is just about wrapped up. That's good. Steven's brother has done a great job of taking care of all the legal executor stuff. We've tried to help where we can, but he's taken the brunt of the load. I know he'll be glad when it's over.
But then...it's over. There's a certain finality to it. (I've been there before.) You spend the time getting things ready to close out. You have a goal, something to work towards. Then, once you get it closed out and taken care of, there's nothing. Then you have to learn to live your life without your loved one(s). That's the hard part. Thankfully, it gets easier. One of my sisters-in-law asked me once if it ever gets easier. I very quickly told her, "No. You just learn how to deal with it. But you still miss them every single day." That is true for me 13 and 10 years later. I'm sure it will be for them as well.
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